Children, when they put their mind to it, can sabotage a relationship. This is why you must take it slow when building a relationship with them. Children want to feel:

1) Safe and secure. Children want to be able to count on parents and step parents.

2) Love and attention. Kids like to see and feel your affection, although it should be a gradual process, not a forced one.

3) Seen, Heard and Valued. Most children feel unimportant or invisible when it comes to decision-making in the new blended family. Recognize their role in the family when you make decisions.

4) Limits and boundaries. All children need limits and boundaries whether they think so or not. Continued structure in a child’s life is vital to their growth and development. New step parents should not be the enforcer at first. There has to be a team effort.

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